There are two main reasons why we had our little sleep in our room. Being first time parents, we wanted to ensure we were going to hear our little one when he woke up. Also, waking up very frequently at night time, I did not want to walk to another room and make it as convent as possible for myself. I just wanted to feed the baby and fall back to sleep without leaving my cozy bed. Therefore, 3 of us started sleeping on our king size bed, plus the cat would show up to sleep on the footrest so there would be 4 of us. The research suggests that babies should start sleeping in their room past three months to facilitate independence, self sufficiency and personal growth as well as to have some privacy & connection for the new parents.
Regardless of what the research suggests, these things don’t always go as planned. We were planning to keep our little one in our bed for the first couple of months however, he chose to sleep in his room after a month. How can a newborn choose to sleep in his room, right?! We realized that when he slept in our bed, he woke up very frequently. During daytime, I would put him in his crib and he would take 2-3 hours naps versus he would wake up every half an hour when he slept with us. One night I decided to put him in his crib when he fell sleep. That night he slept three hours straight so mommy slept 3 hours straight. From that time on, he started sleeping in his room. It was possible that we were waking him up since our bed time was different than his. When he turned about three months old, he obtained a new habit of cuddling with mommy to sleep. Now, he does not sleep past an hour unless he is in our bed. Throughout the night, he sleeps very well; only wakes up twice to feed for about 10 minutes then falls right back to sleep. It is such a big convenience for me because I am no longer sleep deprived but at one point, we will have to get him used to sleeping in his crib on his own.
Regardless of what the research says or whatever ideal is, things do not go as planned because of so many reasons. The bottom line is, this is a journey not a project. Just take a seat back and enjoy this ride! Make every moment, everyday memorable with fun memories!
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